Dr. Boyce: Single Moms Can Use a Maury Povich – You are NOT The Father, So Don’t Try to Become One
by Dr. Boyce Watkins
I made the video below not to discredit the heroic efforts of our single mothers all across the country. But instead, I wanted to follow up on remarks made by Ree, the (Ree)lationship Guide, who recently stated that mothers who have taken over Father’s Day and claim proudly that their kids don’t need their dad are undeniably mistaken. Sometimes, parenting can unfortunately become as much about egos as it is about loving the child, and the choices we make while our children are young might lead to difficult consequences for the child later in life.
For every woman who grows frustrated by those black men who are irresponsible, lazy, spoiled and undisciplined, we must consider the possibility that some of these men may behave in this way because they never had productive male role models. A mother’s tendency is typically to nurture and coddle a child, which can make him weak if there is no counter balance. A strong and principled male figure pushes that boy to learn discipline, toughness and principles that he needs to be an adequate father, husband and provider. A man who has been spoiled is no good for anyone, and too many of our boys are raised to be soft and ill equipped to survive in this world.
Yes, I am being old school on this one, but I’m not apologizing. We must raise our sons and not spoil them. Whether it’s a piece of meat or a human being, a thing that is spoiled is never an enticing option.
The video is below:
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